Attended a talk on the Introduction to Family Constellations the other day. Brought along a notepad & started writing once Dr. Wilfried started his talk. The below is almost verbatim of his talk - only the 1st part, I will post the 2nd part of his talk soon. Pretty cool actually & if I have the time, I might consider signing up for one of his 3 days workshop.
Date: 24th April 2008 [8:30pm]
Family Constellations is a new-age, motivational and spiritual practice that was developed in the 1980’s in the West, in particular Germany.
Family Constellations brings about a lot of Asian cultures including the teachings of Confucious and Lao Tzu. It is the awareness and function of a family. In Western cultures, people forget about what a family is because in the last 50 years or so, the western cultures focus on the Individual.
There is no alternative in life but for the progress in the flow of life. There is no turning back the wheel of life. Rapid development causes a tension between the older generation and the younger generation. Feeling of guilt will arise together with sorrow when the younger generation thinks that their parents don’t understand them.
Special family constellation works will give insight into the strain or tension between the two generations and a solution will arise. One focus of family constellation is to harmonize the old and the new. It will however not about going backwards but to move forward without feeling guilty. We can only move forward when we are in peace and when everything is behind us.
In our mind and soul, we are often fighting with the past. For example, when we are fighting with our parents, we often think that certain things should be done differently from what are expected of us. These thoughts and feelings will prevent us from finding inner peace in our lives.
One way for us to overcome this is to Agree with our parents and to say “I’ll take my father or mother as the way he/she is” and “You are perfect the way you are to me” regardless of what kind of person he is. We should agree Not only with our parents but everything in the past including our parents childhood. Only to agree to the past then the past is Over, that we are no longer a burden. Then this sets us Free.
But then, in most of the time, this is not easy to do, i.e. to agree with the past.
We cannot continue disagreeing. We must face the past! We must face our parents! We must face our childhood and all the guilt in our family! We must face our ancestors!
There is pain in our soul when we continue to disagree and we are not aware of pain in our soul. An example in Germany: During the World War II, six million Jews are killed by Germans. In many families, some of the ancestors are responsible for the killings. When the war is over, this information is kept confidential to the world.
People who are responsible for the killings now want to lead a normal, civil life. Some of these people are even loving parents. The children or grandchildren of these people will experience love from them and have no idea on what their parents or grand-parents had done.
But in an unconscious part of the family (or family soul), the information about the holocaust is actually still there. This information will resurface maybe in the children’s dream.
In an actual case study with a patient, a woman had a terrible fear that her two children will die at night. Every night she has to wake up several times to check whether her two children are still alive. During family constellations, it surfaced that her grandfather was responsible for the killings of Jews. This information is still in her unconscious mind although she is not aware of it.
Some horrific information in unconscious mind like the one above is actually responsible for killing our next generations. Where people experiences unexplainable illness, it could at times be related to their past. There is a likelihood of a family ‘case’ behind it.
During family constellations, this can be found and solution will be offered.
Family Constellations brings about a lot of Asian cultures including the teachings of Confucious and Lao Tzu. It is the awareness and function of a family. In Western cultures, people forget about what a family is because in the last 50 years or so, the western cultures focus on the Individual.
There is no alternative in life but for the progress in the flow of life. There is no turning back the wheel of life. Rapid development causes a tension between the older generation and the younger generation. Feeling of guilt will arise together with sorrow when the younger generation thinks that their parents don’t understand them.
Special family constellation works will give insight into the strain or tension between the two generations and a solution will arise. One focus of family constellation is to harmonize the old and the new. It will however not about going backwards but to move forward without feeling guilty. We can only move forward when we are in peace and when everything is behind us.
In our mind and soul, we are often fighting with the past. For example, when we are fighting with our parents, we often think that certain things should be done differently from what are expected of us. These thoughts and feelings will prevent us from finding inner peace in our lives.
One way for us to overcome this is to Agree with our parents and to say “I’ll take my father or mother as the way he/she is” and “You are perfect the way you are to me” regardless of what kind of person he is. We should agree Not only with our parents but everything in the past including our parents childhood. Only to agree to the past then the past is Over, that we are no longer a burden. Then this sets us Free.
But then, in most of the time, this is not easy to do, i.e. to agree with the past.
We cannot continue disagreeing. We must face the past! We must face our parents! We must face our childhood and all the guilt in our family! We must face our ancestors!
There is pain in our soul when we continue to disagree and we are not aware of pain in our soul. An example in Germany: During the World War II, six million Jews are killed by Germans. In many families, some of the ancestors are responsible for the killings. When the war is over, this information is kept confidential to the world.
People who are responsible for the killings now want to lead a normal, civil life. Some of these people are even loving parents. The children or grandchildren of these people will experience love from them and have no idea on what their parents or grand-parents had done.
But in an unconscious part of the family (or family soul), the information about the holocaust is actually still there. This information will resurface maybe in the children’s dream.
In an actual case study with a patient, a woman had a terrible fear that her two children will die at night. Every night she has to wake up several times to check whether her two children are still alive. During family constellations, it surfaced that her grandfather was responsible for the killings of Jews. This information is still in her unconscious mind although she is not aware of it.
Some horrific information in unconscious mind like the one above is actually responsible for killing our next generations. Where people experiences unexplainable illness, it could at times be related to their past. There is a likelihood of a family ‘case’ behind it.
During family constellations, this can be found and solution will be offered.
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